Samiya Brasfield

Sun Jun 07 2020 04:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)


“Being a Bangladeshi woman married to someone Black, we always find ourselves learning new things about each other and our cultures. My husband and I have tough conversations around family, race, culture, and how we will raise our kids. Numerous conversations around racism and Black history have occurred with our families. In the beginning, we would hear things like ‘slavery happened long ago, time to move on’ and these comments were hurtful. My husband never blamed my family or anyone for their comments. He explained to me that ‘America doesn’t teach you about Black history, so if anyone in your community does not know, it’s not their fault’.
Building a life with someone from another racial background forces you to learn about their history. You must want to know and understand your significant other’s background to show you see them and that you care for them. Understanding how much Black people have contributed to this country and how they have been treated historically, in turn, helps us to understand the outrage currently taking place in our country.
As a family we have had many discussions and will always have them as a part of our lives. My grandma came to America to live with my parents in 2016 when my husband and I were getting married. She recently found out about everything that is going on with the protests and injustice of George Floyd. She was so sad to hear this still goes on in this country. As she was watching it on TV she turned to my husband and said 'No shoot you, shoot me first. Me go first.' This older woman, my grandmother, was standing up for her Black grandson-in-law, and for humanity. She opened her heart and eyes to see the injustice that she thought was long gone. Why can’t others?”