Shamia Dewan

Tue Nov 17 2020 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)

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“I am a mother to three little ones. My eldest child is six-years-old and between COVID-19 and homeschooling, I’ve been very nervous. I worry if I’ll be able to teach her correctly. I take it slow and I teach her at my pace. If I’m not able to help my daughter, I take a break or ask for help. I also look for signs of dyslexia in my children and ways to help them.

My biggest struggle is dyslexia, a learning disorder. I see reverse letters and numbers, and see words backward. I have a hard time figuring out left and right, where I will say left but have my right hand up. Taking directions from me is pointless. I always mix up nickels and dimes and to this day, still cannot tell them apart.

There's no known way to correct the underlying brain abnormality that causes dyslexia. It’s a lifelong problem. My disability stops me at times and I feel I can’t do much. I’ve always felt like the “stupid” one. I don’t participate in any “smart” topics because I feel I am not good enough. Growing up, everything took me longer because I tried to memorize what I was learning. My mom would spend hours with me teaching simple things. She thought I wasn’t interested and was being lazy. She didn’t know I was not seeing things the same way she saw it.

I didn’t even know I had this real learning disability. I struggled throughout grade school and college. In college, I worked at TD Bank. I made many errors, did tasks slower than others, and failed bank exams. I overcame by trying again and working harder. It wasn’t until many years later when my husband pointed out that I may have a real issue did I understand why I struggled.

My hubby always encourages me to fight and look past it. This is why my boutique is something I’m proud of. I was always more into the visual and art side of my studies. I love fashion, Bollywood, and trendy styles. I shine when I am working within these areas. I feel awesome making customers happy, as well as being a mother. These are my sweet spots.

My struggle is something I only know. I try to be positive, I am more kind and support others. I encourage all to do the same. One never knows what someone else is really struggling with.”